Well I'm with Figg on this one. I read ALL the books. I wanted to get it right and had no idea how to do that with little experience. I did marry my first boyfriend!
One thing I'm thinking here is that several of you haven't even been separated for a year. I honestly think that is early on to be looking for someone new. I'm not trying to judge - I'm just remembering back. It took a couple of years of healing myself before I was even remotely ready to be in a new R. Even when I started dating - one of the things that made me so sensitive to rejection was my own neediness. My own loss of self esteem that had occurred when Ex left me.
It's funny several years later - I would definitely do what felt right - what I wanted to do. Any guy who couldn't handle that would not be right for me.
I see my 22 year old daughter struggle with the same issues many of you are writing about. Whether to call or email. Why didn't he text. I see the tears, feel the pain. Usually it means NOTHING. Most guys don't even give it a second thought. So I honestly think it doesn't hurt to read the books - but go with the gut.
