It's not what "the book tells you to do".

It's explaining the differences between men and women (Men are from Mars, don't ya know!) and how each view dating/marriage.

A woman who has a lot of self-confidence reacts to men in a certain way. This brings out the BEST in a man.

Since I pursued in stage 3 (and am going through a divorce now) I am ALL EARS why this is the way it is. My H was SOOOO lazy in the R. And in this book, it explains EXACTLY WHY! I "took over" and did everything to get him. He sat back and like a dog with a frisbee--threw higher and higher to see how high I would jump.

I'm exhausted now--I'll follow a few little dating rules and hopefully won't work myself in a frenzy over the next one!