Great info, Bluestar! I knew places as you described existed and I am glad there are several in your area Mystik. This will eliminate TONS of BS and contact with your H. It will also give him a very clear picture that you are no longer fooling around when it comes to custody agreements.
From this point forward do not make ANYTHING easier for your H. The transition agency, IMO, would be such a blessing for you and your son. It will also force your H to adhere to structure.
If you look up SmileyPerson's thread (in the Divorced forum) he mentioned a website he and his wife were using (as per court orders but I think anybody can use it). There is a fee (it was minimal IIRC) but I also think such a service would greatly benefit you. Basically ANY communication you must have with your H (ONLY about your son) must be conveyed via the website. The communication is sent to the court and the attnys so NO BS is allowed and the only info shared is about parenting. I'd imagine it's sort of like a monitored message board system for spouses. He said it eliminated massive amounts of stress with his STBX W in addition to having all communication on record.
Your H think he still can push you around. Once he learns EVERYTHING he says to you will be monitored and submitted to the courts he might think twice about the way he speaks to you. I'd also consider establishing an emergency contact that your H MUST contact if something happens with your son when your H has him. Should something come up the emergency contact will contact you and communication with your H is eliminated. Once you have all that established you can block him from your text/e-mail and phone and not have to deal with him anymore. You can get your son a pre paid cell that only allows your H's number to go through and let them deal with the communication.
I understand co parenting is always best when it comes to divorce but your H is harmful to you. At this time that is not a healthy option for you. When your H starts adhering to the schedules/locations/times, pays you back the money he owes you and STOPS abusing you then perhaps a new plan can be put in place.
I know you are frightened to do all of this but think about it this way - this will FORCE your H to rely on OW for everything... emotional support, transportation, finances, child rearing and scheduling. Eventually that burden will be way too much for her to handle. That is not to say the two of you will reconcile but both your H and OW will only get a full taste of what divorce looks like until you remove yourself totally. And really, you are just doing what he dictated and demanded you do.
