MLC or just an EA?

[angel61]

Thanks so much. When a new sitch comes up I panic because I feel that it is like uncharted waters, but once I get to the site I feel like someone holds my hand and leads me.
I do have a strong instinct with my H, its almost like I could get inside his head at times, but I only see or feel what he is feeling at present, the "predict what to do" part is the hard one. I am not by nature a planner, I am more reactive. I have good hindsight but not foresight, and this is what is being developed in me through this site. I appreciate it.
For him, his NC thing with OW seems to be holding so far. Last night, he decided to invite a close family friend for dinner, and he cooked a beautiful dinner for all of us. One of his stress outlets is cooking, and I am glad to see that he is starting to address his depression in a positive way. He still is withdrawn from me, but he does speak to me in a normal manner now, for everyday stuff like asking me to do stuff around the house, etc. I am leaving for 4 days today on a business trip, I am glad not to be around him for a while while he deals with the worst days, then maybe when I come back it will be better. It will also give me a chance to pray and soulsearch and plan my next moves. Anyone out there who has dealt with a spouse withdrawing, let me know.
One thing though: he still thinks we have problems, he still is in the "I am not in lov with you" mode, he has not made any committments to saving our M, he is in the wait and see mode right now, and thinks its 50-50 we will one day split up. he did not say this to me lately, this is all a summary of everything we have talked about in the past.