IMHO, going dark is almost next to impossilbe when living under the same roof. To you, it is defined "dark", but to your W....she sees a different picture.
You can detach without being dark.
You have a great opportunity to save your M.
Does she know that you filed for D? Is she still in an A?
The more information you can give us, the more we will know what to say in return.
Post as often as you can. It helps more than you realize right now.
She knows that I have filed and she is still in her A. I have detached from her and try to keep our conversations about the kids only. Looking back at our M she has had valid complaints that I have addressed and rectified when they were brought up.
There were also things in me personally that I have wanted to deal with and get past. With the help of therapy I have been able to get passed the death of my mother and have been able to raise my kids with a more positive approach. I have become super dad to them and they come to me more now then they do to her. I've also realized that her beahvior now and the emotional abuse that I am going through is far worse than anything I have done to her.
I've done a complete 180 with my life in a positive way and am now proud at who I see when I look in the mirror. I'm going to be the best man I can be for myself and my kids and am only going to try and attract those type of into my life.
She has also done a complete 180 but in a negative way. This is not the person I fell in love with. She has become very selfish and seems to care only about herself. She has said she's never been happier and that hurts because our family is falling apart.
M36 W39 D6 S4 Married 10 years EA began 7/10 Bomb Dropped 8/6/10 Filed for D 10/6/10 Divorce put on hold 12/10 Currently Piecing
