H's MLC - he is still lost but I found myself

[glamgirl]

Sorry Mila that your h is still full of anger. My h was angry for about 3 years. Your heartfelt e-mail was nice. Your h did come to his senses for a moment, but you can expect the angry h to be back anytime soon. He still needs to process everything.

It's horrible to be on the receiving end of their anger, but keep telling yourself that he is NOT rational and please don't even try to defend yourself when he is like this. He WON'T hear a word you say and will turn everything you say against you.

The best advice I can give you is to NOT engage in these type of conversatiions. I know that is very difficult to do, since what they are saying is not true and you want to defend your actions and thinking about it will do NO good and then make you feel terrible.

Try to remember they are selfish and this is NOT about you. BTW I heard the same thing about being like my h's mom and I too bought a car without my h. They must read the same books and then insert same verbiage. Ha Ha Ha!