I remember being frantic to find a place by myself. I wanted my own apartment so I could carry out a PA with OM. I knew my H would not give me one red cent to help me do this. At first, the OM talked big and told me he would help finance it. I didn't want to be financially dependent upon him or to feel like a "kept woman". But then I thought I would go crazy if I didn't get out of this house. I felt as if I couldn't breathe. So I finally asked OM how much money was he talking about. When he told me, my heart sank b/c that amount would not even cover one untility bill per month. He lived a ways off and at fist talked about coming every other weekend. Then changed it to "maybe" once a month but some months he couldn't. Reality must have started to creep into the fantasy.

The reason I'm telling you all of this, is b/c it was lack of funds that initially kept me home. That is why I advise LBH's to not help their WAW finacially.

Is she expecting you to go on the bank note with her? Don't let her talk you into supporting her love nest. She may pretend the the A is over, but I can almost promise you that it's not and that's why she doesn't want to stay with sister.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!