Update: We had an MC session that went well on the surface...at least we agreed to another, and came away with some agreements and some work to do.
I'm getting the vibe though that she is done, though she won't say it.
Yesterday, at my sister's wedding, my wife puts her hand on my knee while talking and I flinch. We haven't had much contact in 2-3 weeks. She asks whats up, and I mention that I thought it was weird, because I feel like she is done. She says, "yeah, I think so". Later she backs off of the statment, and says she is still thinking.
My question to all: How does DB apply to this? We already salvaged from a divorce in progress once, and I said I wouldn't do it again. Now we haven't filed, but we are on the brink. Once she does, I'm pretty sure that is the end of the line for me.
I'm applying DB principles now, but some seem a little off. For example, trying to GAL and stop obsessing- but we live under the same roof, sharing facilities and raising children together. I can't just disappear. I can't walk around the same set of rooms and not talk to her.
The few times I have, I notice an almost immediate result, but feel like doing so specifically violated my role in the family. (For example, one night went I worked late, went to gym, and got home when i pleased- about 2-3 hours late. She showed more care and concern than she had in weeks, but it also worried the kids.)
