It'a All About Me

[Sanderika]

Hi Cas,

Your D does not deserve to be treated this way, not one little bit!!

IMO, if they are going to be RUDE and MISERABLE...they can just simply stay away and be RUDE and MISERABLE alone or towards their friend of choice the moment.

If your day was like mine, you and D were probably doing quite well without his presence, happy too. He comes on the scene and the next thing is he upsets his darling, wonderful daughter. IMO, his frustrations were towards you (undeserving and unjustified of course)and he used her to take them out on. Shame on your H!!

(((Cas))) You do know that you are not the cause of your H's frustrations and problems. My guess is there is probably a source outside (OW or MIL or HOLIDAYS) bringing on this latest bout of MLC flu.

These guys are soooo selfish and need to grow the (insert word of choice) up!!

Perhaps next time H asks D if she wants to have his help with whatever, she tells him "Thanks Dad, but no thanks, I'm all set".

I know I'd rather figure out an alternate plan rather than watch and listen to my H treat my son this way and for no logical reason except that he is messed up in his head. I have saved son from many of these types of situations over the past 5 years and I'll do it forever if I have to.

How did your D feel when she got home? I hope you had a chance to talk to her about her Dad's unreasonable behavior.

My advice on this one...YOU and D should go dark on him and allow him the time and space to deal with this newest, crazy chapter all by his lonesome. After all it can't hurt either you
or D at this point.

Think long and hard before you invite him to your holiday festivities this year as well....just a thought for you.

I'll be thinking about you both...

Sanderika