WEll, East Coast suitor has gone up in flames......I'm on a real streak these days!
We'd been getting along well, our phone conversations are great (although I admit I was very reticent as he didn't seem to have any plan to see me other than me showing up in his state somehow). But he is a super needy guy when it comes to compliments.
He had finally asked me what I thought of his picture when I first saw it (he fell for my Facebook photo, if you recall, and friended me on FB.). We'd been so comfortable chatting lately, I told him the truth (unfortunately this was an email chat, SO much gets lost when you are typing these things). The truth was, when I first saw his photo, I thought he looked kinda scrawny and intense. Then the first time we talked on the phone, I REALLY liked his voice and thought "Gee, I lIKE this guy".
Well - he took offense. Like REALLY MEGA took offense. Even when I tried to explain, soften, butter up - no go.
The honest truth is - he IS very intense. VERY. And as a skinny 5'8" runner, it shouldn't be a surprise to him that he's kinda scrawny - I'm sure I outweigh him by 20 lbs at least.
So he's cutting off contact with me. (Note - this isn't really about me, he's a hermit-ty guy who has a history of this).
I feel bad about it, because I certainly didn't mean to hurt his feelings - actually I was growing fond of him and would have gladly dated him if he came out here.
Still, this emphasizes a lesson I apparently need to learn better - stay away from hermit-ty guys!!!! I can't fix 'em. And super-sensitive guys? I am just too damn blunt and honest to be a good match for them.
