So, were you thinking of me when you started this thread? I was doing pretty good at detaching but recently as the dreaded Aniversary date has approached, I feel the walls closing in on me. Thanks for starting this thread. I think it will help many of us.
As your excercises go, I am constantly working on #1. I don't think that I can really do #3 right now. I am having a real hard problem seeing my life without "the problem." What I can see of it is not particularly nice. It often looks like an empty place. That is something I need to get past. I do feel that I have lost much of me in this and need to find out who Peter is again. Perhaps a new book from amazon will help. I'll post details to all of you when I get it.
Let's see, #2
2. How do you feel about detaching from that person or problem? What might happen if you detach? Will that probably happen anyway? How has staying "attached"--worrying obsessing trying to control -- helped so far?
Detaching will help me to get back on center. I expect that it will help he to find me. I fear that detaching will just help her to continue down the path away from us, but intellectually (sp), I know that that is not the case. My brain knows that if I do not detach, those fears will come true anyway and I will continue to be confused, hurt, and unhappy. The hard part is that leap of faith, when much that you have counted on in your life has vanished. Eeek!
Anyway, those are the thought of someone who is trying deaperately to detach and have faith. I think the lack of faith makes it much harder. You do things for yourself, you try to make changes, you spend much of the day trying to be a positive person, but at night when the lights go out the reality bites very hard.
A little too deep for a borderline geek.
Thanks again Sue. Where do I send the check for this Therapy session?
