Angel, your being able to talk is a GOOD thing, if you can take it. Find out what was so attractive about the affair for him. I think you instinctively hit on something by wearing the old perfume.
My cousin is a beautiful 40+ year old woman. She wears her hair and makeup like she did in HS, which was the early 80's, and it may have been out-dated then. This drove me nuts for awhile because I thought she could look even more beautiful if she updated it her style (she also wears the blue eyeshadow). But she does it because bot she AND her husband feel younger. They've been married over 25 years and they are still flirty, etc. They have a wonderful marriage.
You seem to have some good clues about your husband. Use them.
