Not pursuing in stage three is definitely a huge challenge for most women--you are so "grateful" for the attention by someone you are really strongly attracted to that you can barely stand it!
And it feels weird. You still shouldn't pay for anything, you should still give him a gracious smile and tell him thank you for the things he does,
Well just read through part of the book. And turns out LO that I was doing some of that right on my own, even if it felt strange! For example after our first date Thurs I was tempted to text him on Friday, but I felt strongly that I should wait for him to contact me. Then he did later on Friday afternoon and I was glad I waited. He wound up asking me for date #2 Friday, and I went and it was fun!
Yesterday I waited until early evening and sent a text just saying I hoped he was having a nice time with his girls (he got his kids on Sat for their holiday celebration time). Then I read in the book that I did good, bc I just sent a general nice comment and nothing pushy/pressuring... (btw he did reply which is good bc at the time I worried I should have left him alone to enjoy his evening).
Today a good friend of mine who knows my sitch was telling me to send him a flirty text. It felt all wrong to me--so far he has shown that he likes to lead and I enjoy letting him lead. He hasn't gone into overt flirtiness so neither have I. I did not contact him, and then he wound up texting me again this afternoon. I was busy so I did not actually reply for two hours....then he replied back within ten minutes.
So yes, I am going to let it play out and let him initiate things for now...
