Cat, I relate. I had some of those convos kml is talking about with a guy I met online when I first dipped my toe in the water last year...only to find once I met him in real life for our first date, I was not attracted to him remotely. Then I felt gross!! So, no more of those conversations. I can still be light and flirty, but nothing with sexual overtones until I decide I like you enough and have known you enough to want to carry them out, eventually...