Yes, it might be a good 180 for my H, but I won't cancel on my D. She is already expecting me to be there on night "number two.'
With her, all appointments, even pick ups from day care are sacred in my book. It has been a big part of building safety and predictability for her. H doesn't do this as well, and I think it is one reason she asks for me so much when she is with him.
A three year old who had one parent walk out fully expects the other one to leave too. In their mind, the loss of both parents means there will be no one to feed and care for them. Pretty scarry stuff, and not an exaguration.
Right now it is all about letting her know she can trust me to be there when I say I will. The DBing has taken a backseat to just being a mom. For now, he is a big boy who doesn't want my help. D is a little girl who needs a lot of help to get through this.
Maybe I should consider this DBing for future generations?
