angel, there are always variations to what is 'standard', and I'm glad for you that something different has worked for you. In my sitch many told me to stay away from any sex with H, but I feel it has to be what seems right in RL for the sitch. If you can handle the emotional aspect of sex with someone who doesn't want you then keep it going. That isn't the sitch with BM and her H, twice in a week after a long dry spell isn't coincidence.
BM, if there is something with ow how will that change what you do and what you want?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
