Starting on a different path

[bethann]

Mystik,
I have 5 children, so I get what you are saying. You have to have interaction with your h. But make it limited! I agree, it would be so much better if you could have no interaction at all - I think I would be able to heal alot faster and better if I just didn't have to deal with him at all, because every single time I talk to or look at him, I hurt and I don't understand why he did what he did. Also, the whole detaching thing, isn't that what they want anyhow??
With the D question, I have been struggling with that myself. Although I don't want to D, I too have hopes that one day he'll be back and sane again, do I really want to stay in "this" M?? What I'm saying is, I'm considering giving him the D he wants, then when DB works and we R we can get married again. Wouldn't it be fitting to have a new M, one that didn't dwell on all the past issues. I don't know for sure and like I said, I'm still mulling it over, but I am considering it. It's not giving up, it's hoping for something new and improved.