Spent the Thanksgiving holiday at the ILs for four days. I originally thought, because of what W said, that I wouldn't be spending it with my kids. I was tremendously thankful to be with family on that day. The whole family made the trip. And while I didn't spend anytime bolstering my case with BIL and ILs, it was good to be around family. I know I have their support. There was tension around W, but I found keeping to my head down (actually my head was in the fridge most of the weekend), watching football, and spending time with the dogs made for a relaxing weekend.
In the past, where I would have been upset that there was no progress made with W, I really just tried to enjoy the time away from home, getting help with the kids, and being thankful for the people and things I do have in my life. I could characterize this as four days more away from my M, I now am beginning to view this as 4 days closer to W emerging from her funk and me four days closer to discovering what I want from life and how to get there.
M / W: 43 D8 S6 M 10 years / T 13 years W admitted EA/PA: 10.6.09 Separated in same house 10.6.09 W moved out 2.27.10