MLC or just an EA?

[BeingMe]

Gosh! There are so many similar things with our sitches. My H sounds like yours - also worries about his age, depressed, thinks he has not succeeded in his career (but he has), how he looks (been buying younger clothes). We are also immigrants (14 years out of our homeland now) ... in our case to Canada. Our H's five years younger than us. I don't have a career, however, but my H does and travels a lot. I am studying for my degree, so hoping to have a career.

Thanks for visiting my site, Angel. It does seem as if you are five years behind me. At that stage, I had a lot of hope. I think you have more to be hopeful for ... your H is more open and transparent. Mine hid and lied, so it was hard to trust (even now), and to know what's happening. I don't snoop anymore.

But, to your sitch ... do follow DB'ing. It does work. Giving your H space to think, does not mean giving him permission to have an open M. No, it means space with certain boundaries which includes no connection with OW.

Perhaps you can woo him back ... very subtly, of course. I don't know how that would look like, maybe wear perfume from when you were first going out?

Just some thoughts. Take care.