He knows you love it. I know you have strong feelings and are afraid to let a new vision in, but ironically, if you don't, you don't have a chance, and if you do--you have a better chance.
When I came to this board I really did not want to live. I was pretty devastated. I was advised to go 'pitch black', which I did for 9 weeks, and then tested the waters with a positive result.
It was so incredibly hard. I fought my every natural instinct. But I felt so empowered. Not only because of the good result, but because I regained control over myself. Michele and my posters helped me tremendously. And over the years, I have gained more of the DB skills (actually using them). And I'm so not perfect, but I am not pathetic anymore either.
I know you can do this, because I see you doing it. You are doing a lovely job, it's beautiful to see.
Have a great evening, sg
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001