I want to wish all of my blessings (you, my friends) a very Happy Thanksgiving! Look to what you do have to be thankful for, for that is what really matters.
H informed our Ds that he would not be seeing them next Sunday. He told them he will be in New York City as the place he works is sponsoring a bus tour out there for shopping.
24 years ago when I was 8 months pregnant for S23 H and I worked in the same place where he still works, and we took the nine hour bus trip to NYC to go shopping.
Despite me being so far along we really enjoyed the trip and had always talked about going back. Now I find out he's going with ow.
I really would like to tell him to keep that kind of thing to himself because d@mn it still hurts to hear about it.
I am sorry that you're down this evening. What nice thing can you do for yourself to make yourself feel better right now? Light a bunch of candles in your house? Find a cozy movie to curl up and watch? Make yourself a special cup of tea? Put on some nice music?
Things are not always as they appear to be. I bet that H won't be able to help but think of you and your wonderful trip to NYC together the entire weekend that he is there.
H would have had to be the one to initiate the trip in the first place since it is sponsored by his work place. I don't think he probably will have a moment's thought about our trip there. Mind reading here...
IDK there just seems to be even stranger things going on with H as of late. He seems to be withdrawing further away from all of us.
He spends little time with the girls as it is, but they both report that he interacts with them hardly at all now. It's like he's there physically but mentally and emotionally he's somewhere else?
Where he used to mention me in conversations with the kids he no longer refers to me at all. It's like I no longer exist for him.
Today he told the girls that he wants to spend Christmas with them at S26 and DIL's new house??? Both girls do not want to do that and prefer to have Christmas in our home as they have always done.
H will not even come in the house anymore while waiting for the girls when he comes to pick them up.
I am not sure why he no longer wants to even look at me. BD was 14 months ago. For a year now I have not pressured, guilted, or pursued H. I have left him to his journey. Most of our interactions were short but pleasant.
Not sure whether this is 'normal' behavior for MLCers or if it is time to pack up hope and move on?
