For a while I felt that way too .... did not want to read about other peoples problems. But now I have come back because I did see that DB does change things, as you stay longer and longer in this situation. My H and I are both MD's and I had the same thoughts - like is it all a game? He will see through me.... but after a month of doing it, and reading also other books, I can feel real changes going on inside me, and also, my H has started feeling more comfortable at home, knowing I am not going to attack him, defend myself or make his life more miserable than he already is. my H did say to me that he felt that if we both become strong again, then we would have more hope of reconciliation some day. He said that had I gone down the path of self destruction, all the more would he have been pushed away. Right now, I feel that I am the stronger one, after learning all his DB techniques. And its true, that DB prepares you for both reconciliation and/or divorce. I chose to fight for saving our marriage, so everything I do I always ask myself if it will make me reach my goal.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
