I think its over help pls

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Yes I am the primary caregiver. But she only works part time. I have a decent income. If we seperate I would have the kids more she will not take them from their comfort zone. She has said she would be the one to leave. That is not what I want not that I can change what she feels. I wish I could. She has thrown out the idea of a temp apartment last week and purchasing a home. The purchase idea initially came with a statement that who knows what could happen and maybe we could rent it if things work out. That was 4-6 weeks ago. Today she's looking.
She thinks the kids are not going to miss her. Although I have heard I miss mommy about 10 times today. 4 Kids 11 and under.
How do I let her know they miss her when she thinks I am manipulating that?