I started reading your thread - and I could see myself in your situation 5 years from now. I am also 5 years older than my H and he has just ended his EA - not for us, mind you, more for selfish reasons (he could not take it anymore, the combination of guilt, being rejected by the OW, etc.). I guess 5 years of waiting is enough to drive anyone crazy. I would probably give up earlier. But really, there's nothing much to do except live your life and not be anticipating every move of his. Easy to say, but hard to do. Also, perhaps just learn to love unconditionally, without expectations, even if he rejects it. I am trying to start on this concept, I also don't know how it could be done on a humanly basis!
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
