Sandi, IDK if she is having an affair, but signs point to it and I know she can't get the passion and connection she wants with me as long as she is hanging on to what she had with OM. She has been talking about what her and her IC have been working on and a lot of it has to do with her running away. Now she doesn't think she should have ran from OM and she has to trust her gut instinct. She thought we were done before she met him. She has worked with many people closely, but nothing like that ever happened. I know, blah blah blah blah blah.... But, what it all boils down to is he can have her. why would I want to live in a marriage where W is always going to wonder what if... If she could let it go and do what is neccessary to heal us under MY terms, then their still might be a chance for us, but realistically I don't see that happening and I'm not going to sit here and waste my energy on someone that is not moving in that direction.
