IMHO, going dark is almost next to impossilbe when living under the same roof. To you, it is defined "dark", but to your W....she sees a different picture.
You can detach without being dark.
You have a great opportunity to save your M.
Does she know that you filed for D? Is she still in an A?
The more information you can give us, the more we will know what to say in return.
Post as often as you can. It helps more than you realize right now.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
