Need insight

[Truegritter]

Gritter, did you really go thru all this crap already?

Denial? Yes.
Bargaining? Yes.
Anger? Yes.
Acceptance? Yes.
Forgiveness? Yes.

All of these did I go through. And Anger is the toughest. And it comes around still.

You have to decide who you want to be Pickle.

You can be a victim of bad choices and behavior.

You can leave and get on the next bus to Bitterville.

The barn door is open my friend.

And no one will blame you.

BUT

Are you living your life for anyone or everyone?

You contributed to part of your M demise and you have to figure out what that is.

You won't see it through your anger.

Do you want to be what most men do? Become a statistic?

When you took your vows did you say:

"I will love and honor you all the days of my life, for better or worse

BUT

If you get scared and lose your way.

If you get so scared you RUN away.

I won't.

???? Is that what it meant really that day you said it?

You are entitled only to what you choose. You control that.

Will you let someone dictate your life and what you believe by their actions or inactions?

This is not for th faint of heart. This will take you down to your core. Most people don't have the stomach for the "worse" in for better or worse.

Decide what kind of man you want to be and get to gettin' there.

Admire me?

I am here because this tragedy changed my life. I am a better man because of it.

AND ALLL OF US

Have that inside us if we choose it.

People here helped me see that I could be that man and I am here to be a witness to that...

To give back what I got.

I don't ask for admiration. I don't need it.

I am here for you.

You can choose to "Screw her" or not.

I can only say we get what we give. Love is a choice. Not a guarantee.

Not an entitlement we deserve.

The day we understand that, we discover the true power of the word.

Your choices will confirm or deny what that means for you and to your W. About you.

Your choices define you. Choose wisely.