Still on the border of Neverland

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Twink,
I'm very sorry to read about your mother's passing.

Mlcers do not deal well w/death and the emotions that are involved. However, I do have to hand it to your h....he at least sent a letter to your family during this time of sorrow. Their sensitivity button is in the off mode during the crisis and they do not realize how they come across, i.e., just as a teenager would do by asking about the seating at an event while you are trying to make arrangements, etc., for your mother's funeral.

Also, around the holidays, they do tend to come out a bit more than normal. But once the holiday is upon us, poof! They disappear. It's usually the norm for them. I'm not making excuses for their bad behavior, but it appears that many of them do this.

Twink, take care of yourself. Plan your holidays around you and your family. Your h is missing out on many milestones and family events....it's his choice. Do what is best for you and your family.