BobbiJo, I have been totally convinced that in the early stages it's best to let the guy ask you out. Many people see it as "his job" so he may expect to play that role. But more importantly, it's an important acid test: does he like you enough to continue asking you out? If he does, he WILL ask you out. If not, then you don't want to be with him. Because you want to be with a guy who is really into you and who is willing to pursue you.
It's awesome being pursued. Guitarist initiated all of the dates between us until very recently. I don't think he saw this as any kind of burden or unfairness. He wanted to see me therefore he made sure that we always had the next date lined up and he was always coming up with ideas of how we would spend our next date.
I don't think that asking a guy on a date necessarily prevents a guy from being into to you (though it might in some cases), but I think that letting the guy do the asking is a great way to screen out all those guys who are ambivalent, lukewarm, not willing to put in the effort, etc.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
