I would just wish him a Happy T-day. I would thank him for all the T-day meals he prepared (he was the cook in the house). I would tease him again about the first T-day he prepared where the turkey wasn't done and he thought creamed corn could be made by putting it in the blender (not palatable-don't try this at home).
We had absolutely nothing to our names at the time. We ate in the basement of a house that he was renting. It was dark, damp and disgusting... but, he made-do by using what little we had to make a huge meal. It was just the two of us.
ugh, memories are bittersweet...
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."
Evolve- I am struggling with the memories too, being this is the first Thanksgiving separated, and my time line is somewhat similar to yours. But you know what? I am thankful that I made it through, and though there were many sad moments during the day it was not as terrible as i thought. Two weeks ago i thought the holidays would kill me. But I traveled on a plane, by myself with a two year old, and ended up having a decent time. We are getting stronger evolve, and where we are gaining strength from our experiences, they will ultimately only be able to live with regret from theirs. B/c at some point I truly believe, whether they want us back or not, they will realize how terrible they treated us. And the more we take the high road, the less likely they are to blame us for their mistake and the more likely they are to realize how poorly they have behaved. Sorry for my rambling post- I have had some wine too!!
Evolve I agree with the others. Memories are not bad. They might hurt, but they are YOURS and you don't let the wayward take those away. I too struggle with memories. But sometimes its ok to feel some hurt for you instead of the H.
Hang in there I think you are probably doing better than me these days! GW
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
