Starting on a different path

[Abbey]

Ok... dropping the rope. Your sitch right now... he's still mad at hell at you for not giving him what he wants. Now... I get why you don't want to budge... BUT... somewhere in that teeter-totter is a place you have to get to where you are no longer the bad guy in his eyes. (hey... reality has nothing to do with this. It's just his screwed in the head mentality.)

SHE right now looks like the good guy. Right now, you've got them pitted against you. Once you manage to remove that from the equation, you're no longer prolonging their inevitable break down. THAT will happen, it's a given.

You have to give up on "now"... that's where I personally see you stuck, you're *afraid* to let go. Actually the best thing you could do for yourself and the hope to get this thing fixed down the road is to not only let go... but actively PUSH him away. Hardest thing I ever did. Worked though.

I see that as your best chance to turn this thing on it's ear. It's not going to happen next week, or next month. You're going to have to get used to that fact. This is going to take some mega time to get turned around. You're still trying to steer this thing ... and I dunno... how's it been working for ya so far?

Drop the rope, ... stand in the mirror and repeat "What-ever!" as many times as it takes to make it an auto-response to his stupidity. You need to reject HIM to get this back on an even playing field.

Just my opinion
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