Yes, I am almost certain he was hinting about me. H & I have known him for years and years. After I threw my X out, this guy did make a few passes, but I turned him down. I have never encouraged him either. When H & I were first married he was a roommate for a bit. H was the one who told him we seperated, and they used to talk quite a bit. This guy started calling me occasionally after he heard H left, but hadn't called to talk to me in years.
I feel bad 'cause he really is a nice guy. He just has enough issues to keep an army of therapist busy for 20 years. I have never been at all interested in him either, btw.
My tough spot is just that this is his house and he really should move back to be close to his family. Unfortunately he has said he doesn't really want to be close to his family and I am afraid he is thinking we would live happily ever after together. He had moved away after a failed attempt at staying sober and to get away from all his friends and family.
If he does move in though, I will have to move out. No way I can even take a chance on it effecting custody durring a divorce. And, while he is a harmless enough drunk, his friends do not tend to fall into the harmless category. Even just his sloppy drunk behavior isn't good for my girl to be around. But his friends? Oh sweet Lord NO! I would be constantly worried about my girl with some of the bar rats he hangs out with.
I have been thinking about it and think I need to call him tomorrow morning (when he may be sober) and let him know that I will need time to find a new place if he moves back. I can let him know it would effect custody. I can't have him thinking we would be roommates if he did move.
Feel like an a**, but not saying anything may have him moving down here just to try to get together.
