Detaching does not mean we don't care. It means we learn love, care, and be involved w/o going crazy. We stop creating all this chaos in our minds and environments. When we are not anxiously and compulsively thrashing about, we become able to make good decisions about how to love people, and how to solve our probs. We become free to care and to love in ways that help others and don't hurt ourselves.
The rewards of detachment are great: serenity; a deep sense of peace; the ability to give and receive love in self-enhancing, energizing ways; and the freedom to find real solutions to our probs. We find the freedom to live our own lives w/o excessive feelings of guilt about, or responsibility toward others. Sometimes detachment even motivates and frees people around us to begin to solve their probs. We stop worrying about them, and they pick up the slack and finally start worrying about themselves. We each mind our own biz.
If you can't detach in love, it is better to detach in anger rather than to stay attached. If we are detached, we are in a better position to work on or through our resentful emo's. If we're attached, we probably won't do anything other than stay upset.
Many of you are deeply grieved over, and concerned about certain people in your lives. Many of them may be destroying themselves, you, and your fam., right before your eyes. But you can't do anything to control those people. If you could, you probably would have done it by now.
Detach. Detach in love, or detach in anger, but strive for detachment. It's difficult, but it will become easier with practice. If you can't let go completely, tr to "hang on loose." Relax. Sit back. Now, take a deep breath. The focus is on you.
Activity: 1. Is there a prob. or a person in your life that you are excessively worried aobut? Write about it. Then focus on yourself. What are you thinking? What are you feeling?
2. How do you feel about detaching from that person or prob.? What might happen if you detach? Will that probably happen anyway? How has staying "attached"-worrying, obsessing, trying to control-helped so far?
3. If you did not have that person or prob. in your life, what would you be doing with our life that is diff. from what you are doing now? How would you be feeling and behaving? Spend a few minutes visualizing yourself living your life, feeling and behaving that way-in spite of your unsolved prob. visualize your hands placing n God's hands the person or prob. you are concerned about. Visualize His hands gently and lovingly hoding that person or willignly accepting that prob. Now, visualize His hands holding you. All is well for the moment. All is as it should and as it needs to be. all will be well-better than you think.
