I know it's hard to stay detached when you're being pummeled like that, and I completely understand your reaction. Nevertheless, it sounds like classic projection to me, on steroids. He's unhappy, and he's still not able to see that HIS choices have unhappy consequences for HIM. If he makes it all your fault, he's hoping that you'll fix what he thinks you did wrong, and poof!, no more bad consequences for him.
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I couldn't believe my ears...this after all I have done, DBing, bending backwards, keeping my mouth shut, trying to keep everything civil between us. All that effort to be nice to him for year and half and this is what he thinks of me.
Remember that everything you've done so far has been, or should have been, about saving and protecting YOU and your D, not your M or your H's opinion of you. Who cares what he thinks of you right now? He's not rational. What do you think of yourself? Are you proud of the way you've taken the high road, cared for your D and your home and your business, and tried to be compassionate and understanding toward your H? You should be, and that's all that matters right now.
Breathe, Mila. Catch your breath, regain your footing. See this for what it is. Then keep going. You're really doing fine!
(((Mila)))
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
