Hmmm Deb this is making me think,

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Totally detaching is only good if, the two people are moving on.



I am not moving on, in my mind I've been thinking "what if" meaning H doesn't come back. I need to change that to, H is coming coming back or my H "is back." I must treat H as if he was back in my home, back with me back as family.

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You have to know where to draw the line in detaching.



Yes, yes...that is the tricky part. So freak'n out over OW wrapping S's Xmas gifts was okay then...lol.... That is over the line!!! Even though H didn't give it a second thought, I'm sure OW did...grrrrhhhhhhh..

Cathy