I think you are right, the narcissist-victim mentality looks pretty common in MLC/WAW land. I am picking up on H looking for more connection than I am giving him right now. He is acting jumpy around me. Nothing clingy, but definitely more communication and he seems curious about what I am up to. I have really pulled back from him emotionally. Haven’t said anything, but he seems to have picked up on it and at the least it is a hit to his ego.
Kind of feel like he is fishing to find out what I am up to. He is still acting like a teenager (no offense to any teens) so I’m not inclined to think it is anything more than lookin’ for the ol’ security blanket. Things are not going how he wants right now either though, especially with the restaurant. Opening looks to be delayed till January right now. His only income seems to be from tips while he works as a waiter and waits for the new location to open. Means he is still stuck living with his parents for now too.
After D’s goonight call H texted me to see if it was ok to drop her off in jammies or if she should be ready to go out. I texted back it was ok either way, I could get her dressed at his parent's place before we all went out to shop. He texted that he didn't mind dressing her, just didn't know my plans, have a good night, and that my little girl misses me. Texted back that either way was fine, and that I had missed her too but was glad she got some time with him.
In the morning he texted to tell me he was running late, then called to say he was actually on time. I told him I was already there, he was surprised and asked if everything was ok. I said yes, just having coffee with his mom and dad. Also told me D had been up crying for me all night, so I told him I would give her an extra big hug when she got there.
At D pass-off he mentioned not knowing my plans twice more and seemed hesitant to go off to work. More confused looking than like he wanted to stick around.
The gift from "D3" was a multi-bit screwdriver to keep in my car. Doubt D3 had anything to do with it, but I had mentioned a little over a week ago that I wanted to get one for my car. Nice of him to remember, and goofy that he insists that D3 said I needed one. Think it is just him trying to hide behind her when doing nice things for me again.
