Well, just because you brought up the idea doesn't mean you screwed up. You DID end up with more information about your situation.
A DB coach is MUCH less expensive than and divorce, and they don't try to keep you coming back for a lot of sessions. It's an option.
Going dark: You can say you don't intend to have these talks during the holidays. If she talks, just listen don't offer opinions agreements, and try to get her to talk FEELINGS versus strategies.
If you divorce, you and she will be ok--but less trusting of other people, the lawyers will get richer, and the children will suffer the most financially and emotionally....let's work on EVERYTHING else.
