Heartbroken,

Welcome to this forum.

While I would love to tell you that fixing a marriage can be done is a week or two, as you can see, it takes much longer than that.

Did I read correctly that you are doing different things to "get his attention"?

If that is the case, I can assure you, that is the wrong reason to do it.

However, the taking care of yourself part is totally correct, especially with three (almost 4 children).

In order to be the best mom that you can, you have to take care of yourself first.

Have you read the DR book? If not, please do. It will help you get a good grip on the concepts that are talked about on these boards.

As far as MLC, anything is possible. However, only you can make that determination.

Either way, this is going to seem like a very long road because this all takes time.

Keep posting and others will be around...


"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox