I went up and talked to someone on the prayer team. I saw him in March and he prayed with me. This time, he asked questions for a bit. He asked me what I can offer STBXW for the rest of my life. I mumbled a couple of answers. He looked at me and said, "you can offer her grace. God gives you grace for all of your sins."
A fantastic bit of advice! Remember, forgiveness is as much for us as it is for the forgiven. Wow, what a great gift God has given us, the ability to let go of our hurt and anger...but we have to choose it.
"In my growth group that week we talked about it and I remembered how my dad never bad-mouthed my mom, but he also never was cordial to her, they never interacted at all.
When he died, my mom did not go to his funeral."
It sounds like anger and grudges are held tightly in your family, CTH. We live what we learned but thankfully God has made it possible for us to change that in our lives. Again, we have to choose to do so...a tough task for most of us!
