Hope it's not too late

[what next?]

Yeah, that's why I'm here. I realize that so much of what I am experiencing seems completely unique but then I read stories that sound exactly like mine. Helps so much to know that I can actually start to anticipate what might come next instead of having to take every blow.

I really am preparing myself for the worst but at the same time I'm just trying to do everything that I can to make that scenario less likely. I have made the changes in myself not because she wants me to but because I want to be the best person that I can be. I realize that this will help me in whatever relationship I have next and while I hope with all of my heart that that is with her I know that it isn't up to me.

How should I approach the actual divorce with her? Like it is just a legal formality? Just keep up the last resort stuff straight through? I think that right now she is burying herself in the process and not having to deal with the emotion of separation. I kind of just want to get the legal stuff over quickly so that she can start to feel what is happening.