WAW never responded to my L's letter and as far as I can tell she hasn't retained her own. He sent her another letter asking her to submit to an occupational evaluation to determine her income potential. There is an initial conference scheduled for 12/7 that my L will attend. The screws are tightening.
I got some strange text msgs from WAW over the past week. I was out of town with GF last weekend and she send me some snide comment like
"It must be nice going on vacation first to *** and now this trip - and to think every one feels sorry for you"
Its kind of funny but while its true people do feel sorry for me because they wouldn't have wanted to go what I've been through with her, they (including her own family) are thrilled that I have found someone else. Its waaaaay sooner than I thought, however.
I don't respond to this stuff. I got some other frantic-sounding texts one night when I wasn't home because I was staying at GF.
On Thanksgiving she had the kids and I spent the day with GF's family. She sent me a message talking about the holiday schedule with the kids, and said: "Maybe we can share the day with them (each get them part of day). I know you didn't want any of this. I am so sorry."
I have heard her say sorry a couple times over the past two months.
The remaining holidays will be interesting. I also am looking at the last holidays in our house most likely. Kids don't realize it, but the house will likely go up for sale soon, possibly before the end of the year. My L was going to file a motion to put the house up for sale before the D is final.
Not sure if I mentioned it in earlier posts, but I decided to sell the house to lower my expenses and also even out our tax situations since it has a big impact on how much support I pay due to the huge writeoff I get from the house.
To think that I am spending my last months in the house is kind of sad. It is a great house that I have always really liked. I'd be selling it at a big loss but I take it in stride with everything else. Yeah, I didn't want to lose my home, but I also didn't want my wife to have an affair and give up on the marriage, be a parent only half time to my kids, face the financial difficulties, etc. The house is just one more thing along with the rest of it. Selling the house, however, will also be part of starting over and wiping the slate clean.
Who knows, I might end up moving in with GF at some point in the next year anyway. I will have a lot of other things to consider. If GF and I make this more permanenet and move in together I will likely be moving to a town 30 minutes away. Half custody of my kids probably won't be possible. I may end up with an every other weekend situation. We'll see. Lots of things need to land between here and there.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
