LL and Deb ~ Great points....I think Michele calls it "lovingly distance" in DR. I agree there is a fine line between being so detached that you can't imagine a life back with H and being just detached enough that you leave the door open to the possibility of a R......
I also find it challenging to be detached yet still be "kind" to H and not "rub it in" that I am happy and moving on with my life.
I always ask myself, if this were (fill in the name of one of your best girl friends), what would I do? How would I act? How would I treat her? then I try to apply the answers to my H. So far ir seems to be working. I am thinking of him more as a freind and less as a STBXH!!!!! Make sense??!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
