Are there any midlife women who want daily sex?

[TeaEarlGreyHot]

I don't know what's funnier -- that or the counterpart "women peak sexually at 40"

YMV!

Applied more generally the point/counterpoint probably are statisitically "true." Applied to specific cases, maybe not so much. As noted above, there are many other factors that go into sex-drive and when (and to what degree) one "peaks." Although I was well past my "peak" the last time I was sexually active (at age 43), there was little decrease in MY sexual capacity between my "peak" and my last time. I could still make love for hours on end (if that was what was available), multiple times in a variety of positions and locations. If anything, sex and intimacy were much more relaxed and much more "confident" through experience.

I was 33 and she was 39 when my current wife and I met (she, as I think I've mentioned before, is about 6-1/2 years older than I am) and at the time she would have told you that was her peak time. Lots of things contributed to that.

I have no idea of how my abilities have diminished with lack of "practice." At age 57, I assume they have. And it's much more than being about sex. On the plus side I am physically about the same in overall physical conditioning and stamina. I can still easily hike 10-15 miles per day with 30-35 pound pack on my back at altiude. There are relatively few peers who could do that (though a couple of years ago, it would have been much more of a struggle for me).

One thing I've noticed in your writing more recently is this disappointment in not causing or sharing a female orgasm. There is something about that for you...like if you really turned your wife on she would be able to experience the Big O (or something else liem your abilities are lacking because she can't/hasn't/won't/doesn't have an orgasm with you. As noted above, that may have little to do with you (there are trust issues to be sure and they probably have always extended to you). While it may seem to be a matter of the right amount of physical stimulation in the right place(s) at the right time, you know it's much more complicated than this. And perhaps just as irrational.

I've known women for whom orgasms were "reserved" for certain racial/ethnic characteristics. No amount of convincing could be applied to those situations. Of course, men can't fake orgasms (or sexual excitement) and if necessary, we men can just have it be about sex and our orgasm. It depends upon just how satisfied you are with that.

The Captain