In the process

[newmama]

Oh! I am such a dork--I was thinking that you were referring to the trigger moment, but yes, yes you are correct,unfortunately.

Thank you for clarifying

I am spending a lot of time thinking of how the present will shape S' future relationships. Since I can't undo the past I can only give him a loving mother and the best opportunity to connect with his dad. Something in me is thinking that when people have a good relationship with each of their parents, divorced or not, they will have more potential for happiness in life.