No IAP, I completely understand where you are coming from. Mine just moved out 2 weeks ago, and in a lot of ways it is better. It's lonely, that is probably the hardest part. I was like you though, my h was being pretty alienish by the time he left. And that made it easier. By the time he left I had pretty much had enough. I think though, and there will probably be those on here who disagree with me, that more is gained if you are the one who asks them to leave. I only say this b/c I heard my husband say to me many times before he decided to move out " How much more do I have to do to you before you give up. You are acting pathetic." So if I could do it again, I think that I would have been the one to tell him to leave rather than him deciding to. Especially when there is an affair going on. But who knows, maybe he would flip that around on me and say that I am the one who ended the marriage. Basically, right now he says whatever he needs to in order to make me look like the bad guy in the situation.
