Fingers crossed for some significant progress via Retro.
I would agree wholeheartedly that a marriage cannot be rebuilt if a spouse who had an affair chooses to continue working side by side with their affair partner.
It's a no brainer really.
Your challenge is to find a way to stay firm on what you know is right and proper, without sounding like you are simply dictating the terms of the new marriage relationship.
I cannot imagine a credible marriage counselor/therapist agreeing with her continuing to work with her affair partner.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."