I don't see how I can show her with actions that I have changed (unless not contacting her is that action) but I guess that is all I can do.
If you are making changes in order to be a better "you".....with or without your S, then why the urgency for her to see them?
You are still trying to be in control. When you can get to the place that you are relaxed and feeling good about yourself....that will have a stronger influence than trying to make contact to show her a brand new you. She will know if it is a ploy to get her back.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
