This is our assessment of our marriage currently. We are happy, have no fights, are very aware of each others needs, have fun together and everything seems perfect from the outside. I did forgive W completely, gave her my heart again and did fall back in love with her. She agrees that everything is perfect except for the passion and she doesn't feel in love. She works closely with Om and has always said she can handle it. Perhaps she hasn't been honest with herself and the situation never really came up where she could quit her job. But obviously those feelings will never change that she has for him and she absolutely cannot see or talk to him again if she ever wants that connection and feelings to come to me. She says she has tried her best and she is at peace with ending this marriage. I said we are doing everything right except the most important thing "remove OM from the picture". So I was basically at the point that either she quits the job and we move forward together, or this is done.
she does want to believe me and says she wants me to be right on this (that we can regain that passion and have the marriage we both want). we are going to go to retro next weekend and hopefully we have a clear vision of how to proceed after it. If she can't quit her job, I will not live in this marriage. It's a battle I know that I can't win.
