tell me, if you feel comfortable sharing... how did you come to reclaim your self-confidence in your twenties?
I think being in new positions at work, and other areas ofmy life, and branching out in things I didn't know I could do. Then, discovering some things that I could do.....and do it well. At first, receiving compliments about the job I had done (or whatever it might be)boosted my confidence, but as I grew I realized that I should not consider my worth or if I had done a good job or not....based on what others said or thought. I had to know within myself that I had given it all I had and if I fell short of expections (mine included) it didn't delete my value or worth as a person. I have to watch that last part so that I don't grade myself based on what I do. Worth is not based on performance.
I heard a preacher say that most of us need to stop trying to "do".....and just "be".
I use to read a lot, and self-improvement books were at the top of the list. I also learned that just b/c you have a person that is critical does not mean you are wrong. That person who is so critical is the one with a problem! My focus had to be that I did not catch the disease and find myself with a critical heart.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
