What a great bunch of posts here! I really needed to read this today. I think I've come a long way in detaching, but I do struggle with being impatient and wanting things to move along quicker than they are... Here's my example:
What is H doing? He says he will not go through with D and wants to reconcile. So what is taking so long to move forward? He must not be serious. He must be playing some kind of game with me.
How about: H says he needs to take this slow and he is afraid of screwing it up. He is having a tough time right now and is taking baby steps. He's been willing to talk a bit about this. It's good that he can be honest about it.
